We have 3 systems from which we can work, some instinctively and others consciously, according to Gilbert (2009-2015)
➣ Threat and defense system: it is focused on security, fight, flight and protection. It helps us connect everything that has to do with feelings of fear, anger, insecurity and anxiety and that generates adrenaline and cortisol in the face of a threat.
➣ Incentive and search system: focused on achieving goals, overcoming challenges, competing, putting our strengths into practice to achieve challenges. It connects us with feelings of energy, motivation and alertness. It generates dopamine.
➣ Calm and affiliation system: focused on self-care, empathy, kindness, generosity, warmth. Connect with feelings of calm, confidence and security. It generates hormones such as endorphins or oxytocin.
Chronic stress shuts down the calm and affiliation system, exacerbating the other two systems, making it very difficult for us to transition into a calm state naturally. In this way, we are not able to regulate our emotions and systems clearly and effectively.